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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Determined How are things today Bro?

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Quiet today @Darcy, all feeling a bit numb.

We went and visited again this afternoon and mum quite tired and dozes off  a lot  but it is nice being able to just sit with her.  

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

I have developed an annoying cough this afternoon that I have not had in a while. Usually get it when stressed and takes a long time to shake it... not what we need at the moment. 

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Sending ever so gentle thoughts your way @Determined.  

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

This is possibly a bit of a close to the bone comment @Determined, but my Dad also dozes off a lot nowadays. When I'm visiting him and he quietly falls asleep I have such mixed feelings. He looks so peaceful, but at the same time he looks as if one day soon he'll fall asleep and never wake up from it. It'll have to come, but I genuinely hope it comes quietly.

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Hugs @Smc

Not easy times. I know what you mean there 😔

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Thanks also @Darcy 

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Quiet day here, went to visit mil again this afternon and mostly slept in the chair beside her. 

While she definitely does not expect us to visit daily our presence is comforting for her.

FIL is making some enquiries at a local private hospital tomorrow to see if she can be supported closer to home. The main reason for transfer to current location was to be closer to oncology for review and further treatment but there is nothing more they can do other than manage pain so...?

It will be good if she can be closer to home as I'm not sure how much longer we can sustain the 2 hour round trip each day to visit, also quite worried about FIL  in this regard 😔

 

 

 

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Determined, some areas offer palliative care support in the home, but don't know if that would work for your family, if it's available? Closer would be better. Hope your FIL can sort something.

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Thanks @Smc

In home support is available but mil not confident to be at home due to lack of strength 😕 .  It would.make life so much easier and I am sure we could manage but she needs to be comfortable/ confident also.

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