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Re: Loneliness

Hi @BlueBay yes

 

You seem to have enough distractions, many dont. They think they have a full life but in actual fact they have too much spare thinking time which is diverted to thinking too much about our own troubles...making them more troubles and then more.

 

The sad part is that us with MI can easily compound/double our troubles by thinking about them. Mental illness isnt going to go away by focussing on it once the basic services have been started. Its like attending school. we attend, we learn and study, we go home and fill the rest of our spare time playing etc. Well, with mental illness we go to therapy, we go to our GP for meds and chat, then we go home and what do we do? instead of "playing" eg hobbies, socialising, we stew over how ill we are, how intolerant, how moody and so on. Clearly, for me anyhow Bluebay, distraction and filling my life with activities has been the most instrumental self styled things I've done to help myself.

Self analysing is a way of helping yourself. Eg I found that if I come home from a walk and plonk on the couch after 30 minutes I start pondering my bipolar "was I too snappy at the medical nurse 3 days ago"?  "Did I pressure my wife too much this morning"? and the illness gets worse. Instead, now that I've recognised that in myself, when I return from a walk or shopping I have a cuppa with my wife then get up and "DO" something often on a caravan forum or this site or research caravan accessories etc. I also like inventing small tools or garage trolleys and so on. I have a small list ready for when I'm free rather than stand around wondering what to do which again leads to boredom. Be productive as often as you can. Variety in life.

WK

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Re: Loneliness

Good read on ABC online today.

IMPACT OF LONELINESS
http://mobile.abc.net.au/news/2018-09-23/loneliness-is-contributing-to-elderly-depression/9825766
GEORGINA had allowed her health to deteriorate.
She hadn't had the time to look after herself properly, and while grieving, she didn't have the will or the energy. But nowadays, she says, she's "mentally, physically and emotionally on top of the world". She's learnt a valuable and important lesson, which she hopes others who are struggling will wake up to: "Loneliness can be very, very dangerous.". But she's living proof that good company can be a lifesaver.
In the United Kingdom, policy-makers became so concerned about the health ramifications of social isolation, they appointed a Minister for Loneliness earlier this year. But Mr Wyatt believes a better solution lies in our own backyard. "What I'm hoping is that we start a movement across this nation where we take note of people who don't have company and we just drop in and say, 'Hey, would you like a cup of tea?'"
TAB
Senior Contributor

Re: Loneliness

I had forgotten I had seen a British show on loneliness on ABC ages ago @Former-Member yes it’s becoming more prevalent apparently
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Re: Loneliness

Yep, how are you @TAB?
TAB
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Re: Loneliness

Um had some adventures/misadventures re work @Former-Member anyway trying to put it behind me. Have work this week ok starting tomorrow. Father’s not sounding good. Birthday no. Too Many next week. Have pushed people away IRL thru being painful.. bla. Bout it. @Former-Member How about you? Sorry for unloading
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