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03-10-2018 07:26 PM
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Re: Depression Dementia Dad
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03-10-2018 08:07 PM
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03-10-2018 08:18 PM
03-10-2018 08:18 PM
Re: Depression Dementia Dad
Hi @Former-Member You have such a lot on your plate.
It's so sad with your Dad, makes me want to cry hearing about it.
Things took a dive for me about 1 week ago - learning that I have 2 serious Hernias.
They were directly caused by the surgeons refusing to re-stitch my surgery wound, when the wound split 3 years ago. They took the staples out too early they said.
So the large hernia has formed exactly where the wide scar is, because that's a weak are.
It's infuriating & very upsetting (at the same time) - because I've done everything right, nothing wrong (to cause it).
Now I have to wait (maybe many months) for a referral to a surgeon, through the public hospital system.
I now need to have a 4th surgery, to fix what should not have needed to be fixed.
The Dr can't do anything for it (he said) - he told me to go straight to accident & emergency, if it gets any worse (or more painful).
Adge
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03-10-2018 08:30 PM
03-10-2018 08:30 PM
Re: Depression Dementia Dad
I've had some very hurtful words from the few people who I've told about my hernias (& needing a 4th surgery) -
"Oh well, at least you're not dead", "I told you so" (when they didn't), etc.
A Yoga saying (my teacher gave) says - "Is it kind? Is it true? Does it improve on the silence?" - If not, then don't say anything.
So these people should have stayed silent, since they had nothing kind (or helpful) to say...
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04-10-2018 10:41 AM - edited 04-10-2018 10:44 AM
04-10-2018 10:41 AM - edited 04-10-2018 10:44 AM
Re: Depression Dementia Dad
Hi @Adge, sorry about these hernias & hurtful comments 😞 I know how frightened you must feel at the prospect of going under the k#ife again, especially since they botched it last time & you nearly died. 😞 I've nursed many ppl with hernia surgery over the years, and if its any help to know - its relatively simple surgery. Is the bowel itself herniated? - this would need careful monitoring. I hope you were given some sort of support binding bandage / brace, even a belt while you wait. If it doesn't strangulate, corrective surgery should be relatively simple. Try get into a big teaching hospital. Try not to worry, I will pray it all goes well, including the wait.
Chin up forum bro xox
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04-10-2018 03:31 PM
04-10-2018 03:31 PM
Re: Depression Dementia Dad
It's so sad with your Dad, @Former-Member, be strong too my friend
sorry about these hernias & hurtful comments @Adge ,
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04-10-2018 04:02 PM
04-10-2018 04:02 PM
Re: Depression Dementia Dad
Thanks so much @Former-Member & @Shaz51
My bowel is still okay I think.
The hernias are where the bowel has pushed through the surgery scar - where it's thin & very wide.
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04-10-2018 04:08 PM
04-10-2018 04:08 PM
Re: Depression Dementia Dad
No I don't have any brace or supportive belt yet.
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05-10-2018 08:19 PM
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05-10-2018 08:53 PM
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Re: Depression Dementia Dad
Listening @Former-Member