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07-10-2015 12:36 PM
07-10-2015 12:36 PM
Loneliness when alone
It's been like this for a while, but it's something I can't really explain.
I often feel alone when I am by myself and only when I am by myself.
I can't stand it studying at home or whatever and need to go places to feel somewhat sane.
*I am an only child and both my parents work*
People say that spending time alone is needed to relax, but I feel alone spending any time over 3 hours by myself.
EEP.
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07-10-2015 12:49 PM
07-10-2015 12:49 PM
Re: Loneliness when alone
Aloneness is not something one can say EVERY body needs so much or this much time. It is an individual thing and a lot of social conditioning is involved as well. I am alone, I get lonely but I need more time alone than with others. This is neither the right way or the correct way, and of course over our life span this may alter.
So, you find being alone stressful for a length of time.......so go with that. if you are in a situation where you cannot readily remedy that, listen to music, have the tv on in the background ......or take a walk. Walking gets you into the outdoors, you see and hear stuff about you!
just a couple of thoughts on my part....
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07-10-2015 05:14 PM
07-10-2015 05:14 PM
Re: Loneliness when alone
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07-10-2015 07:57 PM
07-10-2015 07:57 PM
Re: Loneliness when alone
Being an only child would probably also drive a need for the company of others. Do you have regular friendships or social catch ups?
I liked to catch public transport to help me feel connected to others ...
Loneliness is hard.
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07-10-2015 08:33 PM
07-10-2015 08:33 PM
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07-10-2015 08:39 PM
07-10-2015 08:39 PM
Re: Loneliness when alone
Yep the vocalisation is important.
When I was at uni, I could go so long without talking that
i almost forgot how to speak ... its one of the reasons I have found singing so helpful .. but I only started singing relatively recently
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07-10-2015 10:27 PM
07-10-2015 10:27 PM
Re: Loneliness when alone
I do have friendships. But I get the feeling on loneliness fairly easily.
It's just that when i don't have contact with anyone after a period of time i feel incredibly lonely. At times, the loneliness can somewhat descend into depressing thoughts. Then I need to see someone again.
It's kind of like a cycle.
*Anything more than a day or two and I'll start to feel the loneliness creep back in again*
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07-10-2015 10:34 PM
07-10-2015 10:34 PM
Re: Loneliness when alone
Even if it's just messaging someone, texting, calling someone, even a small conversation I find cheering.
And keeping those thoughts at bay is difficult, and Trying to distract yourself and even small mesaages mean a lot to me, and I hope it can make a difference for you too
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12-10-2015 09:01 AM
12-10-2015 09:01 AM
Re: Loneliness when alone
You can always jump on here 🙂
There's a great community of people here. We don't always just talk about the tough times, there's always a variety of conversations going on 🙂
Nik