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26-12-2016 07:52 PM - edited 26-12-2016 07:57 PM
26-12-2016 07:52 PM - edited 26-12-2016 07:57 PM
9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
Hello Everyone
1) “I don’t know how you do it.”
2) “I sure wouldn’t want to deal with what you have to.” –
3) “You’re just a caregiver, you don’t have a real job?”
4) Everything happens for a reason and God doesn’t give us more than we can handle’
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28-12-2016 10:02 AM
28-12-2016 10:02 AM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
Good morning @Former-Member , @ivana
what are some of the things that you have heard
Hello @denial, @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @PeppiPatty, @Appleblossom, @Anony18
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28-12-2016 05:07 PM
28-12-2016 05:07 PM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
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28-12-2016 05:13 PM
28-12-2016 05:13 PM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
Hi @Former-Member
yes I agree, it is very upsetting xx
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28-12-2016 07:40 PM
28-12-2016 07:40 PM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
@Former-Member mention one I hear all the time. Other ones are:
You are so patient I would have left him ages ago if I were you.
Why put yourself through this?
If he likes you he will want to see you and talk to you everyday
I can see why his ex cheated on him. I would have if I were you.
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28-12-2016 10:07 PM
28-12-2016 10:07 PM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
Uuuughhh .. they are all horrible
the one about god not giving us things we cant handle .. is red rag to a bull with me now ..
One recent one was a CAT team worker .. who put the blame for my episode all on my son.
A counsellor about 5 years ago .. told me that I blame my son for everything .. on the first visit .. she didnt even know half my story and NO I HAD NOT and DO NOT blame my son . or my mother .. or my brother .. or my ex ..for the tragedies in my family. I see it as due to multiple causes .. is it all my fault cos I am the common denominator .. I know I am just not that important and influential ..
and done the research on child development and mental health... but sadly only after I had given my self a big headache .. silly me
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29-12-2016 12:49 PM
29-12-2016 12:49 PM
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Uuuughhh .. they are all horrible
I totally agree @Appleblossom
there is another one --- "why did you marry him " if you knew he has a MI "
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19-01-2017 11:36 PM
19-01-2017 11:36 PM
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20-01-2017 12:00 AM
20-01-2017 12:00 AM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
Oh @perseverer - that is shocking!
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20-01-2017 01:05 AM
20-01-2017 01:05 AM
Re: 9 things NOT to say to someone who is a carer--- Teaching others what to say
@Anony18 It was said in a staff meeting at my school (I am a teacher) in the presence of my colleagues and three priests, all of whom declined to comment during or afterwards. I was left to feel that everyone there who heard it agreed with the comment.