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[Rick]

@pie 

Hello Pie.

Have just been rereading your posts and the responses of others. They reminded of my own experiences with anxiety attacks.

My biggest trigger is overstimulation. I can't do crowds. This ironic since when I was performing I was playing to crowds 10,000 and sometimes more depending on the event.

Even 100 punters in a small room was very crowded. 

Up on a stage you are elevated from them And it does'nt touch you. Which is cool.

Between sets though was a problem. Green rooms are few and far between in the music biz so often you took your breaks in the room. Me , I would go sit in my car. It's only today that I have figured out why. 

Little public contact. A space that is controllable by me.

I don't do theme parks or exhibitions or even water parks. Shopping centre at rush hour are no option for me.

When the attack begins I jump irritable, and jumpy. If I remain I get frightened and the tremors start. I get physical and verbal tics. sorta like tourettes with the violent movements. Hypervigilance and paranoia are a part of it as well.

So in the end I embarrassed and shameful and very very stressed out. Physically my heart goes nuts. Hi blood pressure, tachicardia. it just horrendous.

And the worst thing? Because I must avoid these circumstances I can't take my 12yo daughter anywhere cool. It's heartbreaking. I feel profound guilt. And to me it's justifiable guilt because

If I was a decent father I'd do these thing for her anyway.

But in the long run, I need to be stable. And available to her. I also don't want to take out my symptoms on her. Which has happened. I've been irritable with her for no reason and that hurts most of all.

So I guess if I'm saying anything. It's take control over what you can reasonably control.Learning what the triggers are takes a long time. With practise you learn what to avoid.

And remember that if you're in a situation you can't contol it's a symptom of what's happened, not the cause. 

There's no shame. No guilt. No reason to hurt yourself any more than you are hurt already.

I wish knowledge and peace

Hope endures

Rick

[pie]

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