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Hey there @TheRenegade345 it's super difficult moving through the motions in which you are, it sounds like your self-esteem is very low at the moment and perhaps has been for some time. We're definitely feeling your pain, it's actually a really common experience to go through and it can be uncomfortable and frustrating especially as we compare ourselves to others.
The reality is people from all walks of life and with very varying physical looks have successful and unsuccessful experiences of dating/romance. Yes it's true, society at times makes things a lot easier for some who are deemed "physically attractive" by western standards (I still really don't know what that looks like 
), however it is not a determining factor or as black and white as it may feel to you.
I can understand that if your self-esteem is low though it may be affecting everything around you, so it's important to focus on that. You are worthy, you are valuable and I definitely recommend you have a chat with the team at Mensline on 1300 78 99 78. Mensline are very well-versed in this area and will be able to put in place some basic strategies in building your self-esteem back up. Our forum will always try and advocate for your recovery, we focus on helpful recovery-focused posts, so if other members are encouraging you to shift perspective I do genuinely believe it's coming from a place of relatability and care. You're not alone, and we really hope you see your worth because our community certainly does 
It's heartbreaking to read someone describe themselves that way, @TheRenegade345. You've shown yourself in your posts to be anything but pathetic or disgusting. You're well read, play guitar, exercise, you're tall, broad shouldered... you seem to have a lot going for you. It could just be that the women in the area you live aren't right for you, it could be in how you tell your story to women you're interested in, it's hard to say why a date or conversation may not progress, but as long as you're focusing on being the best you that you can be, you will meet someone one day who loves you for you. Someone close in my life was a virgin until he was 34, but he married his first girlfriend and they now have a happy and loving home with a pretty energetic 7 year old to keep them on their toes. To quote Abraham Lincoln, quoting Persian poets, "This too shall pass". Sending you love for what you're going through at the moment, and please try not to see any replies in here as platitudes, because even if the words don't solve your troubles right now, everyone here means well and wants to support each other. We're on your side and hoping things look up for you soon
So sorry to hear you've had a rough day @TheRenegade345 
It will get better, and you will be okay, there's no doubt of that. Are there any mens support groups in your area, something like Menergy or Integrated Man?
That's great that you've been proactive in trying to set something up @TheRenegade345 
It looks like Menergy have some resources for men's groups on their site, menergy.org.au/mens-directory/
Also, going back to reading, have you read any of the books a few of those groups talk about, like The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, Compassion by Osho, or King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Moore and Gillette? How is your weekend going, what have you got planned?
