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[Unlonely1]

I don't want 2 sound ... howeva i sound... (self indulgent, petulant ... woteva else)

but this is a truth I simply have 2 face ... I have thought for many, many yrs about it, always hoping I would b proved wrong. 😞

Now I'm tired.  

The guilt is too much on top of how miserable I already feel.

Living is of no interest to me.  

This is the first time I've stated these facts.

And, unfortunately, facts they r 😕

[Unlonely1]

Im really sorry evry1... 4 this msg bombardment 😞

im jst so desperate... so scared.

so unsure wots left to do.

wot i desperately need 2 know, is wot do u do wen u luv ur child (more than n e thing), u luv ur other half, who is so tolerant of 'our multplicity', & u luv ur parents, who unfortunately, have significantly contributed 2 making u this way, but r so fckn oblivious 2 their involvement, & even discourage & resent u seeking therapy....

i c zero chance 4 improvement/recovery of n e kind.

ive spent decades trying.

i dont want 2 cause pain 2 n e 1 ... especially my 7 yr old son, yet every day i do harm 2 him!!!!

i mean that last statement!!!!!

i do harm 2 him evry day i live & cant 'b his mom' 😞

i c no future 4 myself.

I haven't 4 a long time & nor do i want 1 😞

all i c in continuing my existance  ... is further harm 2 the 1 person i can still protect from 'me'

i cant discuss this with 'my team' bcoz i am no longer interested in n e thing they have 2 say.... (+i dumped them all last week)

i have been fighting 4 our lives 4 many decades & have suceeded in keeping us 'alive' (per se!!!)...

but it has come 2 the point of me realising the blatant truth ....

which brings me 2 this.....

wot else is left???????

[Unlonely1]

... so last nite i did ONLY wot we call ‘minimum damage', & yep!!!! .... it got me thru another whole 24 hrs αlrítє (+ or - sum) 😐

вut í swєαr 2 αll σf u whσ knσw ‘thís spαcє‘ αs well as we do .... 

wє hαvє nσ chσícєs lєft ..... thєrє ís nσ hєlp, єvєn thσ suppσrt ís αvαíl ín multíplє plαcєs...

wє dσnt nєєd suppσrt!

WE NEED HELP 😟

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@Unlonely1 wrote:

Im really sorry evry1... 4 this msg bombardment 😞

im jst so desperate... so scared.

so unsure wots left to do.

wot i desperately need 2 know, is wot do u do wen u luv ur child (more than n e thing), u luv ur other half, who is so tolerant of 'our multplicity', & u luv ur parents, who unfortunately, have significantly contributed 2 making u this way, but r so fckn oblivious 2 their involvement, & even discourage & resent u seeking therapy....

i c zero chance 4 improvement/recovery of n e kind.

ive spent decades trying.

i dont want 2 cause pain 2 n e 1 ... especially my 7 yr old son, yet every day i do harm 2 him!!!!

i mean that last statement!!!!!

i do harm 2 him evry day i live & cant 'b his mom' 😞

i c no future 4 myself.

I haven't 4 a long time & nor do i want 1 😞

all i c in continuing my existance  ... is further harm 2 the 1 person i can still protect from 'me'

i cant discuss this with 'my team' bcoz i am no longer interested in n e thing they have 2 say.... (+i dumped them all last week)

i have been fighting 4 our lives 4 many decades & have suceeded in keeping us 'alive' (per se!!!)...

but it has come 2 the point of me realising the blatant truth ....

which brings me 2 this.....

wot else is left???????

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wєll αs wє dσ....

[rockypug]

Hi @Unlonely1 

This is Rockypug, one of the moderators here this morning. 

We  have sent you a private email just to see on how you doing. 

[Unlonely1]

 .. jst wαnt sαч thnk u.
.. cσuldnt rєαd n є ‘pm‘ frσm u, вut thαts mσst líkєlч mч σwn stupídítч ... spєcíαllч αt thís pαrtículαr tímє 😖

[Unlonely1]

ímpσrtαnt αddít:
thє σnlч ppl thαt cαrє, r thє 1‘s whσ‘s lívєs í cσntínuє 2 dєstrσч (dαílч), íf í kєєp strívíng 2 stαч αlívє....

í‘ll stf up nσw....

nσ gσσd cαn cσmє frσm wσt í thínk n є mσrє.

❌ í hαvєnt вєєn hєrє lσng, вut íts вєєn lσng єnuf 2 knσw í thínk thís sítє rσcks! 🥇

& thαts cσz σf αll σf u σn ít ❌

[AussieRecharger]

@Unlonely1 

You sound like you have an awesome son who inspires you to be a better person.  I have a 7-year-old who is a handful and i always wonder if my anger and anxiety are the reason she is different from her other sibling who probably had a different dad for her first years when things were a lot different for me. 

There no judgement from me about what you sound like.. to me you just sound like someone who needs to talk, so please talk away.. Let the mods do their job and step in if they need to, but i for one would love to hear more from you, and I am sure others would.  

I am not sure what to say about you hurting your son.. I am not sure what you mean by the statement but I am hopeful that it's not abuse.  

While it might be the last light, there is still light and we still use that to fight the dreaded black dog in the darkness. 

[Unlonely1]

dєpєnds wσt u mєαn вч ‘αвusє‘!!!!

í dσ nσt єvα hαrm hím phчsícαllч.

hє ís prσvídєd fσr, cαrєd fσr, lσvєd ímmєnsєlєч...

wє gívє hím єvrч pσssíвlє σppσrtunítч 2 lєαrn, lσvє, thrívє, grσw, єхpєríєncє єtc

hє hαs α sєcurє hσmє wíth twσ lσvíng pαrєnts.....

hє ís dσíng wєll ín skσσl.....

pls dσnt n є 1 thínk í cσuld єvα íntєntíσnαllч hurt mч chíld!

hєncє mч mαssívє dílєmmα!!!!!!!

í вєlíєvє mч cσntínuíng єхístαncє ín hís lífє ís cαusє 4 єхαctlч wσt u wєrє sσ ríghtfullч cσncєrnєd αвσut 😕

[Unlonely1]

í αm sσ αfrαíd σf cσntínuíng 2 lívє...

nσt jst вcσz ít mєαns cσntínuíng ín mч σwn єхcrucíαtíng αgσnч (αkα: σur dαílч єхístαncє), mσrє sσ вcσz σf ‘sαíd sσn‘, whσm í αdσrє & wαnt thє вєst fσr ...

í fєєl thαt ‘thαt вєst futurє‘ 4 hím wσuldв 1 wíthσut ‘us‘ 😕

2 símplífч ... í dσnt líkє lífє, lívíng, αll σf us ‘up ín hєrє‘, σr ppl.....

hσw cαn í в α pαrєnt σr α rσlє mσdєl 2 α chíld, wєn mч unєrstαndíng σf lífє ís ... ‘ít‘s вullshítє/í hαtє ít/ím nσt íntєrєstєd/í dσnt cαrє‘???

σn tσp σf αll thαt ... 4 mчsєlf ... ím dσnє. ♾

[JoeTheLion]

Hi @Unlonely1 ,

Sorry to hear it's such a tough time at the moment.

Have sent you an email.

Please stay safe yeah